Do we die at night?

Every so often I have a dream that ends with me just about to die or to get very hurt in an accident or catastrophe. I always wake up.

I often wonder if that’s a sneaky cosmic message rife with meaning. I always wake up.

This morning in some other dimension I seemed to have been put in charge of piloting a boat down a river. I really did not see the boat, per se. It was as if someone had attached a GoPro camera to the bow, and that was my viewpoint. But the water was a beautiful blue and it flowed in a landscape like Utah or Arizona where there weren’t many trees but instead was a wonderland of intricate rock formations.

Suddenly I noticed that the boat was headed into a bend in the river, but it was not clear where I was supposed to steer it towards. A woman behind me to my right shouted that I needed to veer right, but by then I was irretrievably headed to the left. Suddenly I felt the weight of all the responsibility for everyone onboard. I wondered how I had been made captain of this boat without having any experience in boating.

As I headed for the inevitable crash and the guilt and shame of causing a disaster for everyone, I woke up.


People who have had near-death experiences frequently report that when they ‘died,’ it was easy. They simply popped out of their bodies and appeared somewhere else. For many it was an instant transition. Many left their bodies before the inevitable collision or trauma; they didn’t feel any pain until they reluctantly came back.

As one of my friends put it from her NDE via an automobile crash: “I was hovering over the roof of the car before my head hit the windshield.”

Another near-death experiencer at an IANDS meeting I attended said that when she saw the bus coming at her in her car, she instantly left her body. She was not in her body when the pain happened.

It was very much like waking from a dream of impending doom.


It is often said by spiritual teachers that we all leave our bodies when we sleep. If so, is this a process just like dying, minus the part about waking up and coming back?

Sometimes when I am dreaming in a very sound sleep, I wake up in a most groggy state. I am surprised to find myself in the waking world because the “dream world” was so believable while I was in it.

Could my dreams be preparing me for how easy dying really is? Just when you think you’re going to feel great pain in the matter of seconds, you wake up somewhere else.

Granted, some ways people die are inherently painful, particularly through diseases or injuries that ultimately prove fatal. Yet we also live in a world where our media and storytellers constantly exaggerate pain and suffering for dramatic impact. I think this conditions us to fear death—to assume that all death is as awful as the portrayals suggest. Yet so much in near-death and afterlife research contradicts this.

The idea amuses me that maybe we ‘die’ each night. It would be comic justice against all those forces that gang up on our psyches with scary stories about how awful dying is.

If we knew that dying is just like waking up, would we fear it?


‘Experts’ often tell us that all consciousness originates in the brain. Brains make up dreams. Brains make up the content of near-death experiences. Brains make up hallucinations.

Many experts of the materialist variety have not had their own personal near-death or ‘paranormal’ experience. Those who do may change their thinking.

If my brain makes up such awesome dream situations and relationships as a normal creative process, I wonder why it can’t do the same magic in the waking state. My sleeping brain is much more creative than my waking brain.

It makes much more sense to me that my consciousness is either visiting some other dimension or is receiving and perceiving through another part of me that might exist outside material earth.

I have not had my own personal NDE, but I doubt suggestions that brains ‘make up’ these adventures. For example, people have near-death or out-of-body experiences that completely change their perspective about life and the nature of reality. ‘Experts’ argue that brains make this stuff up. It makes up the light, it makes up ecstasy, it makes up reunions with deceased loved ones, it makes up complex life reviews, etc. Many experiencers say, “Not so fast. This was no hallucination.”

I’d love it if my brain could do consciously what these ‘experts’ say the brain does. How might humanity benefit if we could harness this amazing, life-altering brain power?

In the meantime, I am happy to dream on, and when I wake up each morning, I enjoy thinking that maybe this is just like dying.

What information could postmaterial luminaries share with us via soul phone technology about the process of dying? Would they confirm what so many others have said through mediumship, NDEs, OBEs, channeling, etc.? Would they validate that dying was easy and that it is often misrepresented in our scary stories?

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