Sex and death

Sex and death are both topics that figure widely in our mass media culture. So much of what appears in our books, movies, TV shows, and social media has something to do with one or the other, and sometimes with both.

Yet I have found an interesting parallel in how the two are primarily presented for mass consumption through the media culture.

For those of the materialist persuasion, death of the brain is the end of everything. These people do not recognize that consciousness survives physical death. They believe that the brain is the seat of all consciousness and that without a functioning brain, there is no consciousness. Case closed, book shut.

Many materialists believe in science. Science is king. Science often thinks that it “knows” things. There is no room for belief. You either know or you don’t know something because what’s scientific fact must be proven materially. There is known proof that dead people are dead, because by all known physical standards, they stop living. Only belief supports survival after death from the point of view of scientific materialism.

Many people won’t talk about—nor are they even interested in the possibility of—life after death. Doesn’t exist. Can’t be proven. Death to them is an off switch, and nothing follows when the switch is turned off. Off is off.

People often do not want to even talk about dying. Both science and religion have made death an unsavory topic. Science says that death is the end of everything. It’s not popular to talk about losing your existence.

Religion says you’ll be judged and possibly punished for everything you did and didn’t do that didn’t please the management in charge. It’s not fun to anticipate how you’ll be judged if, like most humans, you’ve done some things that don’t fill you with great pride and self-esteem.

When death is seen primarily as physical, death becomes unavoidably sad, even tragic. This is the predominate context with which death is presented in mainstream media. When people die, we are supposed to feel bad.

The ego has landed, and it’s not coming back.

Sex, sometimes the creator of life, sometimes the vortex through which romantic love expresses itself, is predominately depicted as a physical act.

For many, sex does not transcend this physicality. Sex is about bodies and what favorite body parts do. Sex often is focused on reaching physical orgasms through various physical activities and positions. Sex talk is often mostly about body parts or activities, sparing the details on feelings. How you look is often more important than who you are.

Yet when the focus of sex is primarily on bodies, like when the focus of death is primarily on bodies, it comes up lacking. Neither focus seems to recognize the importance of the indwelling soul.


Plenty of people have had personal experiences that strongly suggest or downright prove to them that consciousness survives physical death. When this happens, they think that death applies just to the body, not death of everything. They conclude that brains are not mandatory to produce consciousness; that the physical brain may be more like a receiver for the mind; that the mind exists outside the body.

If that is true, then there’s much to learn about why we are here on this planet and if the mind has more than one brain to work through—is there some form of reincarnation? Survival of consciousness asks more of us than living one life and that’s all, folks. It means we aren’t here by accident.

For some of us, sex for the soul sounds pretty obvious. We naturally focus on many of the nonphysical facets of our sex drives. Whether we study something like tantra or are simply aware of more than skin and bones, we transcend. Some people have had amazing spiritual experiences during sexual encounters,

Yet so often, media representations of sex usually ignores any idea that sex and spirituality have anything in common. For all the stories about creeps, predators, and victims, we seldom hear or see anything about sex as healing, inspiring, and truly joyful.

We also seldom hear about ecstasy in general, erotic or not. While we are bombarded with stories of human misery, we so rarely hear about life-changing peak experiences, especially those that happen without a long and winding road of struggle that preceded it.  Suffering is far more on the menu than succeeding, solving problems, and living the good life no matter what state someone’s finances are in.

The SoulPhone has the potential to influence much of this thinking even though that’s not a prime objective. When the SoulPhone is fully open to scientific scrutiny to prove its validity, it will be harder to argue that we die when our bodies die.

On a much more subtle level, and with a lot less fanfare, people may come to realize that making love has far more dimensions to it than a physical performance. It’s much more about mind, heart, and spirit than is usually acknowledged. Once that concept gets fully embedded, the grace of it is truly amazing.


Click here for an earlier article that explores more about how the SoulPhone could impact sexuality.

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